By Ustadz Fariq bin Gasim Anuz

No ivory that is not cracked, no human being is perfect, there is always a weakness and shortcomings. Every man must have faults and the best of them is that repent to God, realizing his mistake, and regret and resolve not to repeat it again.

Therefore advised counsel to the truth should be encouraged, for which he should be advised to thank those who have shown shortcomings and mistakes, it’s just that it is rare, men generally do not like to blame especially if the warning was conveyed to him in a way that is not good .

So an advice giver must know a good method in order to be accepted by the advice of others. Among the methods of good advice is to give advice to others in secret without being noticed by others. On this occasion we will nukilkan explanations of the scholars of adab this one.

Counsel advised the scholars about the secret

Imam Ibn Hibban (d. 534 H) said that it means, “The advice was the duty of the whole people, as we have mentioned this before, but the delivery technique to be a confidential manner, may not be so, because anyone who advises his brother in front of other people then means he has denounced him, and whoever advised him confidentially that he had to fix it. Indeed convey attentively to his fellow Muslims is constructive criticism, are more likely to be accepted than delivered with the intention of reproach. ”

Then Imam Ibn Hibban mentioned by sanadnya up to Sufyan, he said that it means, “I said to Mis’ar, ‘Do you like when other people tell you about the shortcomings-shortcomings?’ And he said, ‘Where are the people who come notify shortcomings menjelek way-things about me that I was not happy, but if that comes to me is a giver of advice then I am happy ‘. ”

Then Imam Ibn Hibban said that Muhammad bin Said al Qazzaz has informed us, Muhammad ibn Mansur had told us, ‘Ali Ibn Madeeni have told me, from Sufyan he said that it means, “Talhah came to Abdul Jabbar bin Wail, and in situ There are a lot of people, so he talked to Abdul Jabbar convey something in secret, and then after that he went. Then Abdul Jabbar bin Wail said, ‘Do you know what he said to me just now?’ He said, ‘I saw you when you caught a glimpse of spring prayers yesterday in another direction’. ”

Imam Ibn Hibban says which means, “The advice if implemented as what we have mentioned will sustain affection, and lead the realization of brotherhood.”

Imam Ibn Hazm (d. 456H) said, which means, “It is obligatory on a person to always give advice, whether that advice was given love or hate, offended or not offended. When you give advice then leave in secret, not in front of other people, and simply by gesturing with no direct frankly, unless the person is advised not understand isyaratmu frankly it should be. Thou shalt not advising others on condition that your advice must be accepted. When you go beyond adab-adab was then you are not tyrannical advice giver, and crazy mad obedience and power not conferred the mandate and implementing the right ukuwah. This (-ie, to provide advice on the condition to be accepted-) not including reasonable legal and law but the law of the jungle friendship, like a ruler with his subjects and master with his harem. ”

Imam Ibn Rajab (d. 795H) said that it means, “Al Fudhail (d. 187H) said, ‘A believer cover (a disgrace brother) and advised him while a fajir (evildoers) leaked (disgrace his brother) and worse-burukkannya’. ”

What was mentioned by al Fudhail this is characteristic between counsel and malign, that advice was confidential manner while vilify it marked with broadcasting. As it is said, ‘He reminds his brother in the midst of the crowd he had menjelek-jelekkannya.

And people hate Salaf enjoining blatantly unjust, they like it when done in secret between the advise with advised, this is a characteristic of a pure advisory and Ikhlash, because the adviser does not have a purpose to disseminate abominations dinasehatinya person, he just has the purpose of eliminating mistakes he did.

While disseminating and appeared abominations others then it is forbidden by Allah and His Messenger. Allah Ta’ala says, which means:
“Those who love (to see) the heinous act was spread among the people who believe, for them a painful torment in this world and the hereafter. And Alleh know while you do not know “(An Nur: 19).

And the hadiths that explain about the disgrace of a Muslim virtues are innumerable.

Imam Shafi’i (d. 204H) said in his verse which means:

You shall purposely came to give advice when I’m alone
Avoid giving advice to me in the middle of the crowd
Because actually in front of lots of people advise tantamount to slander, I do not like to hear it

If you violate me and do not follow what I said then you must not be surprised if your advice is not adhered to. Shaykh Muhammad bin Salih al Uthaymeen said that it means, “Please note that the advice it was done in secret talks with him among you, because if you advise him in secret with four eyes it really made an impression on him, and he knew that thou advice giver, but if you talk about him in front of the crowd then likely got his arrogance which caused him to sin by not taking advice, and may also he thought that you just want revenge and mendeskreditkannya and to impose its position in the human eye, so he did not accept the content of the advice, but if it is done in secret between you and him both then your advice was very meaningful to him, and he will take it from you. ”

When allowed to give advice before others?

However there are some exceptions that allow or require a person to advise other people in front of many people.

One of the Imam Mosque in the city of Khobar Saudi Arabia in one sermon Jum’ahnya said, “Muslims, they have honor and dignity, therefore we must safeguard the rights and honor them, we must nurture their feelings, but sometimes things will advice you to convey to others if you delay, it will be too late, then you should also advise him now before its too late. For example, as found in Sahih Muslim. From Jabir that he said, ‘Sulaik al Ghathafani come (to the mosque) and Gomaa day Prophet sallallaahu’ alaihi wasallam was sitting in the pulpit, then Sulaik immediately sit without first praying, then the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wasallam asked him,’ Is engaku have to pray two rak? ‘He said,’ Not ‘So he sallallaahu’ alaihi wasallam ordered him, ‘Get up and shalatlah two cycles’.’ ”

This is not being broadcast vilify or errors of the person, because it is the right time to advise him, if allowed it will be missed, because the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wasallam ordered every Muslim who entered into the mosque in order to pray two rak’ahs before he sitting, the order requires to be implemented padaa that time can not be delayed until the completion Jum’ah prayers.

However, if it is possible for you to put off until the completion of the assembly and then advise you menasiehati sesreorang before anyone else in the house then this is not true.


As a closing remark, let us refer Shaykh Muhammad ibn Salih al Uthaymeen in one of his speeches, which means, “It is unfortunate that once when I hear about people who include have sincerity in seeking and accepting the truth, but they were broken to pieces, one each in between them have names and specific properties. This phenomenon is actually not true, and in fact one and the Deen of Allah that Muslims are one Ummah, Allah says which means:
The real (monotheistic religions) are all of your religion, religion is one and I was Rab you so fear Me (Al Mu Minun: 52)

And Allah Ta’ala said to His Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wasallam which means:
“Verily, those who divide their religion and their (split) into multiple categories, not an iota of your responsibility towards them. Surely none of their business is (up) to God, then God will tell them what they had done “(Al-An` am: 159)

And Allah Ta’ala says, which means,
“She has entailed for you about Deen has diwasiatkan to Noah and that which We have revealed to you and what have we wasiatkan to Abraham, Moses and Jesus, that you do not tegakkanlah dien and broken to pieces about it” (Ash Syra: 13).

If this is God’s guidance to us then we should practice this guidance, we come together to hold a discussion, talk to each other in order ishlah (repair) is not to discredit or take revenge, for surely anyone who denies others or arguments with intent his opinion or the opinion of others to humiliate and intends to denounce not to ishlah then the result is not in ridhai by Allah and His Messenger, in general case.

Our obligation is to be the people that one, I did not say that every human being has no errors, even humans that have errors in addition to having the truth. It’s just that we now talk about how to fix the error, it is not the right way to fix the error when I mention the people behind while menjelek-jelekkannya, but the correct way to fix it is get together with him and mendiskusikannnya, if it is proven that the person afterwards retaining the iniquities then at that time I had a reason even obligatory upon me to explain the mistake, and warn people of the fault of the person, as such affairs be good.

While bergolong-class divisions and the fact that such was not liked by anyone, except by the enemies of Islam and enemies of the Muslims. ”

di ambil dari : Tulisan Ustadz Fariq bin Gasim Anuz pada Majalah As Sunnah Edisi 07/Th.IV/1421-2000 (Salafyoon Online)